It's so easy to become discouraged or jaded with all that life brings us, and everything outside of us that we cannot change. So the shifts must come from within and it takes work to move through dense energies like loss, disappointment, trauma and heartbreak.
In the context of a spiritual path, “the work” refers to the ongoing inner process of self-awareness, healing, and growth that leads a person toward greater consciousness and authenticity. It is not about achieving perfection or following a specific doctrine, but about honestly meeting yourself, your patterns, fears, beliefs, and emotions with compassion and courage.
The work often includes practices such as meditation, shadow work, forgiveness, self-inquiry, and mindfulness, all aimed at uncovering the deeper layers of the self that influence thoughts and behavior. It means taking responsibility for your energy, your reactions, and the way you show up in the world.
Those who do the work seek to live more intentionally, to release limiting stories, and to align their actions with their higher values or soul truth. It can be uncomfortable at times because it asks for vulnerability and honesty, yet it is also deeply liberating.
Over time, the work transforms pain into wisdom, resistance into acceptance, and separation into connection. In essence, it is the journey of remembering who you truly are beneath the conditioning of the world.
I've learned the power of asking for help, support and guidance across different situations that were difficult. I have had amazing mentors and teachers along the way, many who have become dear friends. Through my own adversities and healing process I have gratefully acquired skills to help and assist others on their path.
I have spent many years studying and working with the forgiveness aspect in the specialty of Ancestral Clearing. Often the missing piece in the healing process is forgiveness of self or others, usually both.
Ancestral clearing is the process of identifying and releasing patterns, traumas, or limiting beliefs passed down through family lines. The things we carry are often 'hidden', so we may not realize they are inherited, and clearing these ancestral influences helps us break cycles, restore balance, and create space for personal growth, freedom, and healthier relationships.
And the work continues, my work, our work, It's an ongoing process. When I'm working with someone and they say, "I thought we cleared that" or "I thought I was over that", there is often frustration or disappointment behind the thought of another layer of the same issue re-surfacing. Sometimes we can clear something quickly and other times so many layers exist that run deep like a river where it seems like one will never get through the thing that remains a discomfort or a trigger or unresolved.
This is where we really do the "work" and it's not only in the clearing of the thing, it's in being gentle with ones self in the process. It takes courage to bring up or face deep pain, our own, or others pain that we've taken on consciously or unconsciously or inherited and buried deep within.
Learning to be gentle in the process of major transformation is key as we often critically judge the process of what's happening or not happening in our desired timeline, adding frustration into the mix. When we are in the middle of our shit it doesn't feel good. So switching to a better feeling requires getting quiet, breathing into the feelings and forgiveness. Why forgiveness? Forgiving the situation, and oneself opens the path to move forward with grace and gentleness, which allows releasement.
Forgiveness works by consciously choosing to release resentment and the emotional charge attached to past hurts, freeing the mind and heart from repeated cycles of pain. It does not erase the experience but shifts your focus from anger and blame toward understanding, healing, and inner peace.
Forgiving ourselves during periods of release is powerful because letting go can uncover guilt, regret, or self-judgment about past choices. Self-forgiveness allows us to move through these emotions without resistance, creating space for healing, growth, and the full integration of what we are releasing. It reminds us that the process of letting go is not a failure but a necessary step toward freedom and self-compassion.
Every time we do this "work" it affects our whole lineage, and every aspect of our lives and the people in it. So when it seems like the 'work' is overwhelming or something to avoid, know that its more difficult to continue to hold onto un-processed stuff within us, or unempowering beliefs or beliefs projected onto us, ancestrally passed on, or picked up via the collective.
Yes, the "work" is an ongoing journey, and while it is not always comfortable, it is deeply empowering. Support and guidance from others along the way offer new skills, wisdom, and fresh perspectives that enrich our lives. Some aspects of personal growth we navigate alone, while others benefit greatly from the help and insight of those who walk with us.
When you think about doing the 'inner work', see it as a lifelong skill that deepens your self-awareness, strengthens your resilience, and continually enriches the way you engage with life.
Through it all, remember to be gentle with yourself and your heart, honoring your pace and the courage it takes to grow and live in this world with an open heart and mind.
With Love & Light on your Journey ~ Eluv
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